Being Paul's Wife

The last blog I wrote centered around all the changes that come from getting older and the kids moving out.

One sentance that I included was "changing from a Mom into Paul's wife".

After talking with my own mom today, I really thought more about that statement.

What a huge transition it was from being a mom to changing into somebody's wife.

Being a mom means sacrificing everything:

*Making sure that you take little portions on your plate so that there is enough for everyone else.
*Always being available for every single phone call and handling every emergency that they can throw at you.
*Making sure that everyone always has an ample supply of underwear, socks, and clean clothes.
*And so many other things that it would take me an hour to write them down.

But changing into someone's wife is a whole different level.

*Enjoying the quiet moments with each other when it's just the two of you in the house.
*Skipping out and doing something totally spontaneous when one of you is bored and just can't make themselves do necessary work.
*Finding things that you can enjoy together
*Having the ability to devote 100% of your attention to your spouse, because after all -- it's just the two of you now
*Being there to listen to each other, try and help each other when one of you is stressed out, lending a hand and helping out when one is really busy.

I like being a wife -- and the new found fun that we are having.

But I also like being a mother. There is nothing more special than being the FIRST person your child calls when they have exciting news to share or when they have sad news to share (I don't really like that part).

But I do have to say -- it's much more fun to be a wife without all the other obligations that you have when the kids are still around.

Does this make sense?